“To sit with a screen and look for love feels way too similar to being on a screen and working, being on a screen and ordering groceries, being on a screen and cancelling travel plans,” said relationship expert Alexandra Solomon.
Many Toronto singles are tired of using dating apps as a way to meet a forever-partner. After recently hearing about the rise of dating-app fatigue through friends, I did a social media call-out and was blown away at the long thread of responses.
They were predominantly from single women whose ages ranged from early 20s to late 40s, and their answers, details and experiences were almost copy-and-paste similar: After being on the apps for the past couple years with no other options of meeting people (thanks to the pandemic and lockdowns), they’re fed up with endlessly swiping without any results – other than frustration – to show for it.
They say the same roster of matches show up time and time again, many of whom “aren’t looking for anything serious.” On the off-chance they end up matching with a prospect, there’s a pattern: they match only to never connect, there’s a lot of starts and stops in conversation, people just drop off and ghost frequently, and worse, many say some matches come on too strong with gross or crude comments.
On the odd chance they end up hitting it off and finally meet in real life, they know within the first few seconds whether or not there’s a connection, and could be stuck being polite for at least an hour.
Is it time to delete your dating app?
One woman told me,“So many times I’ve gone on dates with someone I met on an app, and thought … ‘I would have known instantly this guy wasn’t for me by our chemistry and I probably wouldn’t have said yes to the date had we met in-person initially.’”
Almost everyone who DM’d me from my call-out wanted to chat with me anonymously, which piqued my interest as I got a sense that instead of owning their shared experience, they seemed to be ashamed of it; as if there’s something wrong with them because they’ve failed to find kasidie love on the apps.بیستر بخوانید